Most of us have read the bestseller The Secret, which says that the more we focus on something we don't want, the more of that unwanted thing we get. Frustrating! Especially when it comes to our attempts at weight loss, trying this, that or the other weight loss diet. Some women are perennially on a diet because apparently, their ideal weight is forever out of their reach. Nothing supernatural about this. It stands to reason that the more we think I can’t have that cake, the more our mind focuses on that cake, rather than the healthy alternatives on our diet chart. The craving increases unless we binge...and then we feel guilty.